Listen now | A free webinar led by women-identifying leaders in the kink and poly/ENM communities with a Dom(me) power dynamics workshop, expert panel discussion, and a moderated audience Q+A.
Do you have any questions for me or any of the other panelists? Please drop them in the comments below - I will review every single one and relay them to the others as needed👇
This was so powerful!! Irene’s comments on how creating spaces for taboo interests can create a rush of empowerment and how going slow is a way to mitigate the dangers of falling down that rabbit hole too deeply are so true.
My question is in general within sex positive communities I think there is a separation between org team and the wider community, and within that wider community there can be illegible power structures that can impact people bringing up issues.
Beyond things like anonymous reporting of incidents, what can org teams do to minimize the impact of ostracization from the community?
I’m so glad you found so much value in this 💗 This is a great question we tried our best to address in the limited time we had. Town Halls are an option. Sending out polls to the community is another idea. There are certain unavoidable limitations when something grows beyond a certain efficiency of scale, especially when it’s designed to be volunteer run or not-for-profit. Scope, efficiency, bandwidth, and more is impacted at scale without funding or effective management.
Totally agree, I think what you said about 'safer' vs 'safe' wrt implied risk is really key and adopting a harm reduction approach vs 'no one will ever get hurt here' is really the realistic way to look at it.
100% - perfect doesn’t exist because we’re fallible creatures living on a rock hurtling through space at 64,000 mph… but we can choose to be kinder to each other in order to mitigate the risks we are responsible for.
Do you have any questions for me or any of the other panelists? Please drop them in the comments below - I will review every single one and relay them to the others as needed👇
This was so powerful!! Irene’s comments on how creating spaces for taboo interests can create a rush of empowerment and how going slow is a way to mitigate the dangers of falling down that rabbit hole too deeply are so true.
My question is in general within sex positive communities I think there is a separation between org team and the wider community, and within that wider community there can be illegible power structures that can impact people bringing up issues.
Beyond things like anonymous reporting of incidents, what can org teams do to minimize the impact of ostracization from the community?
I’m so glad you found so much value in this 💗 This is a great question we tried our best to address in the limited time we had. Town Halls are an option. Sending out polls to the community is another idea. There are certain unavoidable limitations when something grows beyond a certain efficiency of scale, especially when it’s designed to be volunteer run or not-for-profit. Scope, efficiency, bandwidth, and more is impacted at scale without funding or effective management.
Totally agree, I think what you said about 'safer' vs 'safe' wrt implied risk is really key and adopting a harm reduction approach vs 'no one will ever get hurt here' is really the realistic way to look at it.
100% - perfect doesn’t exist because we’re fallible creatures living on a rock hurtling through space at 64,000 mph… but we can choose to be kinder to each other in order to mitigate the risks we are responsible for.