Next time you reach for an app, a chatbot, anything that stands in for a hard conversation with your partner: am I using this to prepare for the conversation, or to avoid it?
That’s the entire filter. Preparing looks like rehearsing what you actually need to say. Avoiding looks like never quite getting to the saying part at all.
I go deeper on this in the piece I published earlier this month:
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Becoming Technosexual: How AI and Tech Impact Our Sex and Relationships
This month’s Open Dialogue guest is Kaamna Bhojwani, a researcher, author and expert at the intersection of AI and human intimacy, teaching us all how to become Technosexual, slowly, carefully, and with intention. But here’s the catch: the past, present and future of intimacy are all connected, so in order to master this next phase, we need to confront our discomfort with our sexuality. There will be time for Q+A throughout.
Kaamna Bhojwani is a certified sexologist, researcher, media personality and one of the leading voices at the intersection of technology and human intimacy including AI companions, teledildonics, and humanoid robots.
Kaamna writes a column for Psychology Today called “Becoming Technosexual” and a Substack by the same name. Kaamna is also the host of the Sex, Tech and Spirituality podcast where she dissects difficult topics like the origins of sexual shame and why humanoid robots need multiple heads. She has been an expert guest on NPR, NBC, Reuters, Al Jazeera, Duke University and more.
Kaamna has three degrees in psychology, including a Masters in Spiritual Psychology from Columbia University which she got during the pandemic. Her life philosophy is simple - nothing in the human experience is profane, so let’s talk about it. Kaamna’s book Technosexual will be released in Feb 2027.
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