💬 Ask Ally: How often do things go south with a couple despite coaching them?

A weekly inclusive relationship advice column from Ally Iseman.

Welcome to the inclusive relationship advice column Ask Ally, where I answer all of your burning questions about consensual non-monogamy, communication skills, and all things relationship design!! These are real questions from real readers like YOU.

This is part relationship advice, part sharing my own journey as a woman dating non-monogamously. Think Carrie Bradshaw but without the Aiden vs. Mr. Big showdown, because I can be with both of them thanks to expansive relationship dynamics!

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This week’s reader asks:

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How often do you see things go south between a couple, despite coaching? Jealousy is hard to contain, I’m sure.

First and foremost, things ‘going south’ with a couple has more to do with their desire to maintain the relationship and do the work to create something that works for them both than it does with whether or not it’s a closed or open relationship.

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